We are subjective creatures living in an objective world. Subjective experience: I am separate. Objective reality: All is a seamless whole (so science tells us).
We enrich our life and the lives of others by minimizing the disconnect between our subjective experience and objective reality.
What are the relationships in our life where we feel disconnected, alienated? These are the relationships we need to pay attention to. To find a way to reconnect and become more whole, as reality is whole.
The tool for moving in the direction of wholeness is communication. The word means to “make common.” To reach mutual understanding.
To reach mutual understanding we need to open ourselves up and listen. To open ourselves up and listen we need to be willing to change. To be willing to change it helps to know — if even just intellectually — that the direction of the change is not self-diminishment but self-expansion. The outcome is more life, not less. More joy, not less. More wisdom, not less. More wholeness, not less.
When we know that, we strengthen our motivation to change — we find the courage to put our understanding of ourselves at risk so that we can evolve individually, together, toward wholeness.