And now for something completely different...
Happy Holidays!
A few weeks ago I was interviewed on Zoom by a non-profit based in Hong Kong, called Women in Finance Asia (WIFA). Our conversation was only an hour long, but it covered a lot of ground, so I got a recorded copy to see if there were clips worth pulling out and making available.
I found a number of them, which I’ve now neatly arranged on my website, and also posted on Youtube.
If you’re not familiar with my book and workshop, this is a great way to get an overview. If you are familiar, you might appreciate a refresher on some of the concepts, and perhaps even find something new.
Here’s a list of the Youtube clips if you want to go to them directly:
The focus is on you: Why the most helpful thing you can do in a difficult conversation is to not be part of the problem.
The science of difficult conversations: A demonstration of the "Hand Model of the Brain" helps clarify what's happening at a neurological level, and how it impacts our ability to stay creatively engaged.
Beyond fight, flee and freeze: How our survival drive can work against our survival.
Prioritize the relationship over being right: A brief overview of the first new survival strategy.
Prioritize the relationship over being right/part 2: What to do when you need to have a difficult conversation with someone, and there isn't a pre-existing relationship.
Name it to tame it: How “naming” what’s going on inside of us — our fear, our discomfort, etc. — can give us more conscious control over our actions.
See beyond your story: A brief overview of the second "new" survival strategy:
The disrespectful person: How to handle a situation where the person is disrespectful of you or others.
Transform resistance into response: A brief overview of the third "new" survival strategy.
Moving beyond resistance: To move from resistance to response, we often need to first examine our attachments.
Sharing stories, transcending differences: How a meaningful sharing of life stories can transcend our differences and put a conflict in a larger context, within which new solutions can be found.
The art of surrender: How giving up our resistance can unleash the full creative power of our "unstory-self."
They won’t budge: What to do when you've tried everything to bring a difficult conversation to a successful conclusion, and the other person still won't budge.
Staying present in the moment: How to stay present in a difficult conversation when you feel you're about to "flip your lid."
Relationships are a mirror. Why accepting ourselves is the key to accepting others.
Quick tips for defusing hostility: A few thoughts on how to engage the hostile person.
Hope you find something there that's helpful.